[MdedBiz Success Tips #4] When Perfect Isn't
Good Enough.
By Susan Dunn, M.A.
Being a perfectionist can do you in. Excellence is good
enough; don't saddle yourself with perfectionism.
If there's one thing that can really hamper a person,
it's perfectionism.
It's like a wolf in sheep's clothing, because it seems
to be heading in the right direction, but it's actually
way too much of a good thing. It's good to be interested
in excellence, but when you feel that your work (or
relationship) has to be perfect you're saddling yourself
with a burden nobody needs and one that can affect every
area of your life.
You won't be able to please yourself at wörk or at
höme
because nothing and no one is perfect, or ever will be.
Hëre are some other ways perfectionism hampers you:
1. Perfectionism can lead to isolation. You won't want
to let people get too close to you lest they perceive
your short-comings.
This leaves you without alliances, and out of the loop
at work, and alone at home.
2. Perfectionism also makes you a poor risk-taker and
taking risks is often required in business.
Perfectionists become dysfunctional when something comes
up that they've nevër seen before, or if they're
asked to try something different that seems risky to
them. It can also keep you from meeting deadlines.
3. When you're a perfectionist, your timidity and
concern won't always be perceived as that; more often
it's perceived as arrogance. It appears to others that
you think you're better than them, because you have an
exalted standard of perförmance for yourself.
4. When your goal is perfection, it becomes difficult to
make decisions and to meet deadlines. You're always
trying to out-think yourself.
5. Perfectionists are often micro-managers. They're
afraid to let anyone else do anything, because of the
unrealistic standard of perfection.
As you can see, there are many ways perfectionism holds
you back, and very little good it does. Excellence is
good; perfectionism is not, so don't let yourself fall
in that trap. If you have tendencies in that direction,
change your self-talk and be easier on yourself. You'll
do better, and everyone else will appreciate it.
About the Author:
Susan Dunn, M.A., is a personal life coach who helps her
clients succeed by developing their emotional
intelligence, understanding their strengths better, and
doing the inner work. You can visit her on the web at:
http://www.susandunn.cc
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[MdedBiz Success Tips #3] Why Goal Setting Is Important For You.
[MdedBiz Success Tips #3] Why Goal Setting Is Important For You.
Why Goal Setting Is Important For You.
Copyright by Patric Chan, Author Of
How To Make More Mone.y Easily at
http://www.MakeMoreMoneyLessons.com
Goal setting is such a normal task to do,
but so many people have neglected the
importance of this task.
If you do not have a specific goal, you will
not know when you have achieved your
financially desired result.
Assuming you make $100,000.00 a year
and you do not have a goal on how much
you want to increase it. So, maybe you make
$150,000.00 next year. But, because you
did not set a goal on how much you want
to increase it, you’ll be unhappy because
you WANT to earn more. If you have set
your goal to have a 30% increase by
next year, you’ll be happy because you are
making more than your expectation.
You will never be happy no matter how
much you have earned because it will never
be enough without a financial goal in mind.
Goal setting also helps self-confidence.
By setting goals, and measuring their
achievement, you are able to see what you
have done and what you are capable of.
The process of achieving goals and seeing
their achievement gives you the confidence and
a belief in yourself that you need to be able to
achieve higher and more difficult goals.
Providing that you have the self-discipline to
carry it through, goal setting is also relatively
easy. The following section on goal setting will
give you effective guidelines to help you to
use this technique effectively.
How to choose the right goals to focus on?
Sometimes setting goals alone is not the only
problem that you must face. Sometimes,
choosing the right goals to begin with is harder.
Basically, you can choose to work any goal that
you feel is necessary for your health, stability
and happiness.
Goal setting is nothing more than a formal
process for personal planning. By setting goals
on a routine basis you decide what you want to
achieve, and then move in a step-by-step
manner towards the achievement of these goals.
The process of setting goals and targets allows
you to choose where you want to go in life. By
knowing exactly what you want to achieve,
you know what you have to concentrate on to
do it. You also know what nothing more than
a distraction is.
Goal setting is a standard technique used by
professional athletes, successful business
people and high achievers in all fields. It gives
you long term vision and provides you with
short term motivation.
It helps to focus your attention and knowledge
which helps you to organize your resources.
By setting sharp and clearly defined goals,
you can measure and take pride in the
achievement of those goals. You can see
forward progress in what might previously
have seemed a long pointless effort.
By setting goals, you will also raise your
self confidence, as you recognize your and
ability to meet the goals that you have set. The
process of achieving goals and seeing this
achievement gives you confidence that you
will be able to achieve higher and more
difficult goals later on.
Goals are set on a number of different levels.
In the first place, you decide what you want to
do with your life and what large scale goals
you want to achieve.
Second, you break these down into the smaller
aims that you must hit so that you reach your
overall lifetime goals.
Finally, once you have your plan, you start
working towards achieving it.
===============================================
This article is extracted from the ebook, How
To Make More Money Easily by Patric Chan at
http://www.MakeMoreMoneyLessons.com
Why Goal Setting Is Important For You.
Copyright by Patric Chan, Author Of
How To Make More Mone.y Easily at
http://www.MakeMoreMoneyLessons.com
Goal setting is such a normal task to do,
but so many people have neglected the
importance of this task.
If you do not have a specific goal, you will
not know when you have achieved your
financially desired result.
Assuming you make $100,000.00 a year
and you do not have a goal on how much
you want to increase it. So, maybe you make
$150,000.00 next year. But, because you
did not set a goal on how much you want
to increase it, you’ll be unhappy because
you WANT to earn more. If you have set
your goal to have a 30% increase by
next year, you’ll be happy because you are
making more than your expectation.
You will never be happy no matter how
much you have earned because it will never
be enough without a financial goal in mind.
Goal setting also helps self-confidence.
By setting goals, and measuring their
achievement, you are able to see what you
have done and what you are capable of.
The process of achieving goals and seeing
their achievement gives you the confidence and
a belief in yourself that you need to be able to
achieve higher and more difficult goals.
Providing that you have the self-discipline to
carry it through, goal setting is also relatively
easy. The following section on goal setting will
give you effective guidelines to help you to
use this technique effectively.
How to choose the right goals to focus on?
Sometimes setting goals alone is not the only
problem that you must face. Sometimes,
choosing the right goals to begin with is harder.
Basically, you can choose to work any goal that
you feel is necessary for your health, stability
and happiness.
Goal setting is nothing more than a formal
process for personal planning. By setting goals
on a routine basis you decide what you want to
achieve, and then move in a step-by-step
manner towards the achievement of these goals.
The process of setting goals and targets allows
you to choose where you want to go in life. By
knowing exactly what you want to achieve,
you know what you have to concentrate on to
do it. You also know what nothing more than
a distraction is.
Goal setting is a standard technique used by
professional athletes, successful business
people and high achievers in all fields. It gives
you long term vision and provides you with
short term motivation.
It helps to focus your attention and knowledge
which helps you to organize your resources.
By setting sharp and clearly defined goals,
you can measure and take pride in the
achievement of those goals. You can see
forward progress in what might previously
have seemed a long pointless effort.
By setting goals, you will also raise your
self confidence, as you recognize your and
ability to meet the goals that you have set. The
process of achieving goals and seeing this
achievement gives you confidence that you
will be able to achieve higher and more
difficult goals later on.
Goals are set on a number of different levels.
In the first place, you decide what you want to
do with your life and what large scale goals
you want to achieve.
Second, you break these down into the smaller
aims that you must hit so that you reach your
overall lifetime goals.
Finally, once you have your plan, you start
working towards achieving it.
===============================================
This article is extracted from the ebook, How
To Make More Money Easily by Patric Chan at
http://www.MakeMoreMoneyLessons.com
[MdedBiz Success Tips #2] Goal Setting
[MdedBiz Success Tips] Goals Setting
Forget New Year's Resolutions - They Don't Work
Goal setting expert explains real success lies in life
plans, not in making resolutions.
"You can forget about making New Year's Resolutions if
you're hoping for a successful outcome. Most aren't worth
the paper they're written on," says Vic Johnson, a leading
goal setting and motivation expert.
Most New Year's Resolutions have gone by the wayside
before January is over and most won't even be remembered
six months later.
And the reason is pretty simple. Most are made in response
to something negative; a habit or situation that the person
wants to change or end. And therein lies the problem - it's
hard to develop momentum from a negative response. It is
always easier to move toward something than away from
something.
Consider one of the most adopted goals --- weight loss.
No one can get excited about losing weight - it requires
deprivation. It's a negative response to concerns about
appearance, health, etc. The results of weight loss New
Year's Resolutions demonstrate their weakness.
A 1998 survey sponsored by Gardenburger found that more
than three-fourths of all women between the ages of 25 and
54 make diet and weight-loss plans each year. Nearly nine
of 10 respondents reported only occasional or no success,
while almost half lost little or actually gained weight
instead.
"The people who succeed at losing weight and maintaining
the loss have usually been motivated by a dream much bigger
and more positive than just losing weight," explains
Johnson. "They see themselves living a healthy lifestyle.
They begin to act and think like people who are in good
physical shape.
There's more of a radical change in a person's thinking
and actions than you see with most resolutions. It wouldn't
be possible to effect and sustain such a radical change
unless the person is motivated by a big dream that is positive
in nature."
Another popular aim is to quit smoking. Johnson himself
was a three-pack-a-day smoker until he celebrated a smoke-free
New Year's eleven years ago. "For over twenty years I had
tried to quit many times using every tool and technique I'd
hear about. But as long as I was trying to quit, I couldn't
break the grip.
Instead, I developed a dream to become a non-smoker. I fell
in love with the idea of breathing clean air instead of smoky air,
of my body and clothes smelling nice instead of smoky. I
thought about how wonderful it would be to taste food again. I
decided to start acting and thinking like a non-smoker, and when
the thinking took hold I simply quit smoking. In all the years
since, I've never wanted another cigarette, never even thought
about wanting one."
According to Johnson, the best goal to set is one that
calls for the individual to create a plan for their life
based on a set of personal dreams. "Most people are in a
free-fall through life, careening from one crisis to the
next.
If you were going to build a new house and you had
this idea for a fabulous master bedroom suite, you wouldn't
rush out and start building the master bedroom. You'd have
a complete plan before you started.
When you approach resolutions and goals in the same manner,
you end up with a much better chance of achieving success."
Adapted from Vic Johnson's
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email me: mded@time.net.my
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Forget New Year's Resolutions - They Don't Work
Goal setting expert explains real success lies in life
plans, not in making resolutions.
"You can forget about making New Year's Resolutions if
you're hoping for a successful outcome. Most aren't worth
the paper they're written on," says Vic Johnson, a leading
goal setting and motivation expert.
Most New Year's Resolutions have gone by the wayside
before January is over and most won't even be remembered
six months later.
And the reason is pretty simple. Most are made in response
to something negative; a habit or situation that the person
wants to change or end. And therein lies the problem - it's
hard to develop momentum from a negative response. It is
always easier to move toward something than away from
something.
Consider one of the most adopted goals --- weight loss.
No one can get excited about losing weight - it requires
deprivation. It's a negative response to concerns about
appearance, health, etc. The results of weight loss New
Year's Resolutions demonstrate their weakness.
A 1998 survey sponsored by Gardenburger found that more
than three-fourths of all women between the ages of 25 and
54 make diet and weight-loss plans each year. Nearly nine
of 10 respondents reported only occasional or no success,
while almost half lost little or actually gained weight
instead.
"The people who succeed at losing weight and maintaining
the loss have usually been motivated by a dream much bigger
and more positive than just losing weight," explains
Johnson. "They see themselves living a healthy lifestyle.
They begin to act and think like people who are in good
physical shape.
There's more of a radical change in a person's thinking
and actions than you see with most resolutions. It wouldn't
be possible to effect and sustain such a radical change
unless the person is motivated by a big dream that is positive
in nature."
Another popular aim is to quit smoking. Johnson himself
was a three-pack-a-day smoker until he celebrated a smoke-free
New Year's eleven years ago. "For over twenty years I had
tried to quit many times using every tool and technique I'd
hear about. But as long as I was trying to quit, I couldn't
break the grip.
Instead, I developed a dream to become a non-smoker. I fell
in love with the idea of breathing clean air instead of smoky air,
of my body and clothes smelling nice instead of smoky. I
thought about how wonderful it would be to taste food again. I
decided to start acting and thinking like a non-smoker, and when
the thinking took hold I simply quit smoking. In all the years
since, I've never wanted another cigarette, never even thought
about wanting one."
According to Johnson, the best goal to set is one that
calls for the individual to create a plan for their life
based on a set of personal dreams. "Most people are in a
free-fall through life, careening from one crisis to the
next.
If you were going to build a new house and you had
this idea for a fabulous master bedroom suite, you wouldn't
rush out and start building the master bedroom. You'd have
a complete plan before you started.
When you approach resolutions and goals in the same manner,
you end up with a much better chance of achieving success."
Adapted from Vic Johnson's
MdedBiz Success Tips
email me: mded@time.net.my
See the past posting on this blog:
http://mdedbizsuccesstips.blogspot.com
[MdedBiz Success Tips #1] Dream Big Goals
[MdedBiz Success Tips #1] Dream Big Goals
DREAM BIG GOALS
Excerpt from The Modern Day (Real Life) Indiana Jones
by Vic Johnson
There was a story about a 15 year old boy by the name
of John Goddard.
John, one day, happened to hear his parents and another
adult talking, and the other adult had been telling John's
parents about how miserable his life was and how much he
had failed. He wished he was John's age again and could
live his life over and do some things differently.
Well, John heard the anguish in his voice, I suppose, and
he made a vow that he was going to do something at 15 years old.
So at 15 years old he took out a legal pad and began to write
the things he wanted to do in his life, what he wanted to
accomplish.
Before he was finished he had 127 things on his list. He
called it, "My Life List".
Today John is in his mid 70's. Of his original 127 goals,
John over the last 55-60 years has accomplished 111 of them,
plus 400 other ones that he set along the way.
And just so you know these weren't some small goals, here
are some of the goals that John Goddard has accomplished that
were on his list:
- He's climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, he's climbed Mount Ararat,
in fact, he's climbed every major peak in the world.
Now just that, how many people just doing that, would be one
great life experience? But that's just one of 500+ for John
Goddard.
- He took Marco Polo's route through all of Asia and China.
- He ran a mile in five minutes, he broad jumped 15 feet, high
jumped five feet, and so on...
- He was the first person to explore the entire 420 mile length
of the Nile River (that was his number one goal!). When he was
in 15 years old, no person had ever done it, but that fifteen
year old boy didn't know that, it didn't matter to him. He put
it on his list and when he did it, USA Today named him the
modern day Indiana Jones. He's been down not just the Nile
River. He's been down the Amazon, down the Congo, etc.
- He's been to 122 countries and lived with 260 different tribes.
- He's explored the Reefs of Florida, the Great Barrier Reefs
and so on...
- He's flown 40 different types of aircrafts. Still holds
civilian air speed records. Just that alone would be a great
life experience, that was just one of John Goddard's goals.
- He's read the Bible cover to cover.
- He's taught himself French, Spanish, Arabic (who reading this
could not learn a foreign language in the next couple of
years?).
And that is just a portion of over 500 dreams that John Goddard
has accomplished.
I hope we all learn from John Goddard! Here are two major
points that were impressed upon me:
1) John Goddard's goals (dreams) were written down.
How many of you have heard that before, to write your goals
and dreams down? Because for 20 years I heard it and I had
never written mine down, until just three years ago.
Brian Tracy says if you'll write your goals down you have
a 100 times greater chance of success, just by writing them
down.
Now I look at that mathematically and then by an inverse
way, from an opposite way.
What it says to me that if I don't write my goals down, I
only have a 1 in 100 chance of succeeding. Write your goals
and dreams down.
2) His dreams were BIG!
I've found that a small dream will not give you the bullet
proofing you are going to need. A small dream won't protect
you when bad times come. A small dream does not have any power
at all - it has to be BIG!
So get started today! How?
Go get a journal (or wipe the dust off the one you have) and
write down your BIG goals!
And then get started on your life story!
Excerpt from The Modern Day (Real Life) Indiana Jones
by Vic Johnson
Vic Johnson can be contacted at:
http://www.asamanthinketh.net
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DREAM BIG GOALS
Excerpt from The Modern Day (Real Life) Indiana Jones
by Vic Johnson
There was a story about a 15 year old boy by the name
of John Goddard.
John, one day, happened to hear his parents and another
adult talking, and the other adult had been telling John's
parents about how miserable his life was and how much he
had failed. He wished he was John's age again and could
live his life over and do some things differently.
Well, John heard the anguish in his voice, I suppose, and
he made a vow that he was going to do something at 15 years old.
So at 15 years old he took out a legal pad and began to write
the things he wanted to do in his life, what he wanted to
accomplish.
Before he was finished he had 127 things on his list. He
called it, "My Life List".
Today John is in his mid 70's. Of his original 127 goals,
John over the last 55-60 years has accomplished 111 of them,
plus 400 other ones that he set along the way.
And just so you know these weren't some small goals, here
are some of the goals that John Goddard has accomplished that
were on his list:
- He's climbed Mount Kilimanjaro, he's climbed Mount Ararat,
in fact, he's climbed every major peak in the world.
Now just that, how many people just doing that, would be one
great life experience? But that's just one of 500+ for John
Goddard.
- He took Marco Polo's route through all of Asia and China.
- He ran a mile in five minutes, he broad jumped 15 feet, high
jumped five feet, and so on...
- He was the first person to explore the entire 420 mile length
of the Nile River (that was his number one goal!). When he was
in 15 years old, no person had ever done it, but that fifteen
year old boy didn't know that, it didn't matter to him. He put
it on his list and when he did it, USA Today named him the
modern day Indiana Jones. He's been down not just the Nile
River. He's been down the Amazon, down the Congo, etc.
- He's been to 122 countries and lived with 260 different tribes.
- He's explored the Reefs of Florida, the Great Barrier Reefs
and so on...
- He's flown 40 different types of aircrafts. Still holds
civilian air speed records. Just that alone would be a great
life experience, that was just one of John Goddard's goals.
- He's read the Bible cover to cover.
- He's taught himself French, Spanish, Arabic (who reading this
could not learn a foreign language in the next couple of
years?).
And that is just a portion of over 500 dreams that John Goddard
has accomplished.
I hope we all learn from John Goddard! Here are two major
points that were impressed upon me:
1) John Goddard's goals (dreams) were written down.
How many of you have heard that before, to write your goals
and dreams down? Because for 20 years I heard it and I had
never written mine down, until just three years ago.
Brian Tracy says if you'll write your goals down you have
a 100 times greater chance of success, just by writing them
down.
Now I look at that mathematically and then by an inverse
way, from an opposite way.
What it says to me that if I don't write my goals down, I
only have a 1 in 100 chance of succeeding. Write your goals
and dreams down.
2) His dreams were BIG!
I've found that a small dream will not give you the bullet
proofing you are going to need. A small dream won't protect
you when bad times come. A small dream does not have any power
at all - it has to be BIG!
So get started today! How?
Go get a journal (or wipe the dust off the one you have) and
write down your BIG goals!
And then get started on your life story!
Excerpt from The Modern Day (Real Life) Indiana Jones
by Vic Johnson
Vic Johnson can be contacted at:
http://www.asamanthinketh.net
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