[MdedBiz Success Tips #6] Do You Love Yourself Too Much?
By: Henry Gold
(Part I)
I know you may say "Of Course" I love myself.
But "Do you know the truth?"
Most people say that they love themselves, but they
still eat junk food, which tortures their body.
They still listen to the negative people, who will
always stop them from achieving what they want in their
lives.
They still listen to their egos, which will block
the positive input that could help them travel to their
preferred destination.
....And much much more.
In the past, I admitted that whenever someone
criticized me, I would show them that I was smarter
than they. My ego would take over, where I argued until
the end to prove how wrong he or she was to say
anything bad about me.
The Result: None of the people who cared about my
existence would tell me the truth, instead they just
mentioned words that I would like to hear, as they were
scared that we would end up arguing.
Very soon, most of the sincere people left me alone,
as they felt it took too much energy to be around me.
Eventually, all the friends that surrounded me were the
people who would always "praise me " and say how good
I was.
This behavior was actually blocking all the
information that was supposed to make me achieve what I
wanted. Instead of receiving the correct input for my
business, I had to stand alone, as if I knew everything.
People whom I called "Close Friends" were looking
down on me. After my ego took over, my business
decreased from $4,000,000 to Minus $90,000 in less than
1 year.
I was in pain. I was suffering. It seemed as if the
world was moving by without my presence.
In fact, as soon as the word spread out to those
so-called "Close Friends", they all fled as they
couldn't see the advantage of getting close to me.
This was very sad, which has made me very strong today.
Think back and realize...
"Did I Really Love Myself?"
or
"Was My Ego Taking Control of My Life?"
You see, we all have self-pride. We always want to
hear people say great things about us. The truth is the
ego within ourselves is the first key to "Massive
Failure" in our life.
It is also the poison that destroys all the strong
friendships you have with honest and sincere people.
Instead, you "attract" those "hangers on" who are
just trying to get a piece of your gold.
We all want to be loved. We all want people to look
up to us and say great thing about us. This is the
"Natural Human Reaction".
BUT...
We need to understand being loved and self-ego are
two very different things in life.
Being loved: People love you for what you've done
in their lives and what you've given them to make them
realize that they are able to do something in their
lives.
Self-ego: You are looking for other people's
respect because you want people to think that you are
good. To believe that you are strong. Most of the
time, in desperation for getting their respect use the
material power to shut people's mouths.
This is totally wrong.
Without sincerity, those "Sugar-Coated" friends that
surround you will stick with you as long as you can
provide them with a material comfort zone, such as: go
to movie together where you are the one to pay for the
tickets etc.
How long will it last?
It is all depending on your finances for sure.
Once it ends, they flee.
The result: You cry. You are depressed.
"Why would you want those friends in the beginning
anyway?"
Discard them. Find new ones. Find people that truly
care about you, as YOU, and not for what you have.
Listen to their advice even though it may be bitter,
as they are telling you the truth, not something that
you would like to hear. This is the friendship that will
last forever.
Coming Soon Part II...
"How To Choose The Right Friends"
Please share with friends. Thank you. - Henry :)
- Success and progress towards achieving your goals in life begin with knowing where you are going.
- Any dominating idea, plan, or purpose held in your conscious mind through repeated effort and emotionalized by a burning desire for its realization is taken over by the subconscious and acted upon through whatever natural and logical means may be available.
- Your mental attitude gives power to everything you do. If your attitude is positive, your actions and thoughts further your ends? If your attitude is negative, you are constantly undermining your own efforts.
- The starting point of all human achievement is the development of a Definite Major Purpose.
- Without a definite major purpose, you are as helpless as a ship without a compass.
Establish a Mastermind Alliance
- A mastermind alliance consists of two or more minds working actively together in perfect harmony toward a common definite objective.
- Through a mastermind alliance you can appropriate and use the full strength of the experience, training, and knowledge of others just as if they were your own.
- No individual has ever achieved success without the help and cooperation of others.
- The value of "gathering together those of a like mind" is self-evident.
- A group of brains coordinated in a spirit of harmony will provide more thought energy than a single brain, just as a group of electric batteries will provide more energy than a single battery,
Assemble an Attractive Personality
- A Positive Mental Attitude is the right mental attitude in any given situation.
- Courtesy is your most profitable asset… and it is absolutely free!
- Emotions are nothing but reflections of your mental attitude, which you can organize, guide, and completely control.
- Your personality is your greatest asset or your greatest liability because it embraces everything you control ...your mind, body, and soul.
- To be happy, make someone else happy!
Use Applied Faith
- Faith is awareness of, belief in, and harmonizing with the universal powers.
- Faith is a state of mind which must be active not passive, to be useful in achieving lasting success.
- Close the door to fear behind you and you will quickly see the door of faith open before you.
- Fear is nothing more than a state of mind, which is subject to your own direction and control.
- Faith will not bring you what you desire, but it will show you the way to go after it for yourself.
Go the Extra Mile
- Strength and struggle go hand in hand.
- Render more and better service than you are paid for, and sooner or later you will receive compound interest from your investment.
- The end of the rainbow is at the end of the second mile.
- The quality of the service rendered, plus the quantity of service rendered, plus the mental attitude in which it is rendered, equals your compensation.
- The more you give, the more you get.
Control Your Attention
- Keep your mind ON the things you want and OFF the things you don't want!
- It is much easier to focus your attention on something you believe will happen than on something you believe is unlikely.
- Controlled attention is the act of coordinating all the faculties of your mind and directing their combined power to a specific end.
- Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy your mind at the same time.
- Independence starts with self-dependence.
Inspire Teamwork
- There is no record of any great contribution to civilization without the cooperation of others.
- Enthusiasm is contagious and teamwork is the inevitable result.
- A good football team relies more on harmonious coordination of effort than individual skill.
- Most people will respond more freely to a request than they will to an order.
- Helping others solve their problems will help you solve your own.
Learn From Adversity and Defeat
- Everyone faces defeat. It may be a stepping-stone or a stumbling block, depending on the mental attitude with which it is faced.
- Failure and pain are one language through which nature speaks to every living creature.
- You are never a failure until you accept defeat as permanent and quit trying.
- Edison failed 10,000 times before perfecting the electric light bulb. Don't worry if you fail once.
- Every adversity, every failure, and every unpleasant experience carries with it the seed of an equivalent benefit which may prove to be a blessing in disguise.
Cultivate Creative Vision
- Creative imagination has its base in the subconscious and is the medium through which you recognize new ideas and newly learned facts.
- Synthetic imagination springs from experience and reason; creative imagination springs from your commitment to your definite purpose.
- Imagination recognizes limitations. Creative vision sees no limitations.
- Your imaginative faculty will become weak through inaction. It can be revived through use.
- The man who dipped a chunk of ice cream in chocolate and called it "Eskimo Pie" made a fortune for the five seconds of imagination it took to create the idea!
Maintain Sound Health
- To maintain a Positive Mental Attitude and develop a healthy mind and body, you must conquer fear and anxiety.
- Anything that affects your physical health also affects your mental health.
- A Positive Mental Attitude is the most important quality for sound mental and physical health.
- Exercise produces both physical and mental buoyancy. It clears sluggishness and dullness from body and mind.
- If you haven't the willpower to keep your physical body in repair, you lack the power of will to maintain a positive mental attitude in other important circumstances that control your life.
Budget Your Time and Money
- Tell me how you use your time and how you spend your money, and I will tell you where and what you'll be ten years from now.
- Take regular inventory of yourself to learn how and where you are spending your time and money.
- The secret of getting things done is: DO IT NOW!
- Time is too precious to be wasted on arguments and discontent.
- Some mistakes can be corrected, but not the mistake of wasting time. When time is gone, it's gone forever.
Use of Cosmic Habitforce
- It takes a habit to replace a habit.
- All of your successes and failures are results of habits you have formed.
- The orderliness of the world of natural laws gives evidence that they are under control of a universal plan.
- For every result there is a cause, and results are brought about through the use of cosmic habitforce.
- First you get a habit, then it gets you.
Create Personal Initiative
- It is better to act on a plan that is still weak than to delay acting at all.
- Procrastination is the archenemy of personal initiative.
- Personal Initiative:
is contagioussucceeds where others failcreates workcreates opportunitycreates the futurecreates advancement - Procrastinators are experts in creating alibis.
- Personal initiative is the inner power that starts all action.
Build a Positive Mental Attitude
- A Positive Mental Attitude is the single most important principle of the science of success, without which you cannot get the maximum benefit from the other sixteen principles.
- Success attracts success and failure attracts more failure.
- Your mental attitude is the only thing over which you, and only you, have complete control.
- A Positive Mental Attitude attracts opportunities for success, while a Negative Mental Attitude repels opportunities and doesn't even take advantage of them when they do come along.
- A positive mind finds a way it can be done... a negative mind looks for all the ways it can't be done.
Control Your Enthusiasm
- To be enthusiastic-act enthusiastically!
- Enthusiasm is to progress toward success as gasoline is to a car's engine. It is the fuel that drives things forward.
- Enthusiasm stimulates your subconscious mind. By feeding your conscious mind with enthusiasm, you impress upon your subconscious that your burning desire and your plan for attaining it are certain.
- Enthusiasm is a state of mind. It inspires action and is the most contagious of all emotions.
- Enthusiasm is more powerful than logic, reason, or rhetoric in getting your ideas across and in winning over others to your viewpoint.
Enforce Self-Discipline
- Self-discipline is the process that ties together all your efforts of controlling your mind, your personal initiative, positive mental attitude and controlling your enthusiasm.
- Self-discipline makes you think before you act.
- The subconscious has access to all departments of the mind, but is not under the control of any.
- If you don't discipline yourself, you are sure to be disciplined by others.
- Without self-discipline, you are as dangerous as a car running downhill without brakes or steering wheel.
Think Accurately
- Thoughts have power, are under your control, and can be used wisely or unwisely.
- Accurate thinkers accept no political, religious, or other type of thought, regardless of its source, until it is carefully analyzed.
- Accurate thinkers are the masters of their emotions.
- Accurate thought involves two fundamentals. First you must separate facts from information. Second you must separate facts into two classes? The important and unimportant.
- Accurate thinkers allow no one to do their thinking for them.
